Category: Practical Spirituality

Multicultural Wedding Ceremony

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I caught a re-run of Northern Exposure as I ate my Sri Lankan rice and curry lunch the other day, and fell in love once again with whoever it was who wrote the lines for Chris.

Played by John Corbett, Chris was the local philosopher, DJ and mail-order minister and I wanted to be like him. Well, I can maybe claim 2 of the 3, since I like to philosophize on comparitive beliefs and I've married a handful of couples.

This wedding ceremony was so cool, I had to track it down online to share. I'd be happy to perform this ceremony for anybody, if you're interested. Here it is:

Marriage, it's a hard term to define. Especially for me–I've ducked it like root canal. Still there's no denying the fact that marriage ranks right up there with birth and death as one of the three biggies  in the human safari. It's the only one though that we'll celebrate with a conscious awareness. Very few of your remember your arrivaland even fewer will attend your own funeral.

You pick a society, any society, Zuni, Nudembo, Pennsylvania Dutch. What's the one thing they all have in common? Marriage. It's like a cultural hand-rail. It links folks to the past and guides them to the future. That's not all though. Marriage is the union of disparate elements. Male and female. Yin and Yang. Proton and Electron. What are we talking about here? Nothing less than the very tension that binds the universe. You see, when we look at marriage, people, we're looking at creation itself.

"I am the sky," says the Hindu bridegroom to the bride. "You are the earth. We are sky and earth united. You are my husband. You are my wife. My feet shall run because of you. My feet shall dance because of you. My heart shall beat because of you. My eyes shall see because of you. My mind shall think because of you and I shall love because of you. Now are you guys cool with that? Then kiss.

Credit and thanks go to the following:

The "Our Wedding" episode of Northern Exposure - Episode 3.22, Original Air Date(1): May 11, 1992 • Production Number: 77524
Written by(
1): Diane Frolov and Andrew SchneiderDirected by(1): Nick Marck

Diane and Andrew, you are my new best friends. Though many of my closest friends are fictional, it's good to remember and acknowledge the real people behind them.

Part of that is known as the Eskimo Love Song, should you care to reference it.

My guess is that my new best friends are fans of Joseph Campbell, as I am. Oh how I love the Joseph Campbell!

Articles about issues of confidence, worth, self esteem

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The first question I received to help me share from my library of already published articles (scroll down to see explanatory article or click here) was about the above issues. I did a search on the word "esteem" and these 4 articles came up.  I hope they are helpful!

Conscious of Self

If you find yourself feeling self-conscious today, you are most likely judging yourself too critically. But you can use any feelings of inadequacy to point the way toward improvements you can make to feel better about yourself.  For example, if your clothes aren’t fitting the way you’d like, you can make a choice right now to change your habits. Then be conscious of the choice you’ve made for your self and make that your new definition of self-consciousness.  If you don’t think what’s bothering you can be changed, then accept it as one of the small quirks that give each of us character. Embrace what makes you feel different from others today and immerse yourself in the splendor of your own uniqueness. 


We can turn self-consciousness into self-esteem when we remember not to compare ourselves with others, but instead to appreciate our own wonderful qualities. Write down what it is you admire about others. Then look at the list again and remember that the traits we admire in others are really the recognition of the beauty of our own reflection. Like attracts like, it is universal law. We can always cultivate ourselves, like flowers in a garden, but it is care and nurturing that will make us bloom, not criticism. The most beautiful gardens are those with wondrous variety, so there’s no need to try to be just like anyone else. Be kind to yourself today, and remember the truth of your true magnificence.

Acknowledging Validation (edited down for relevance)

If we constantly seek the approval of others, we will always be disappointed because people want so many different things. But when we make our inner guidance our north star, we follow it because it is ours to follow. From that place, we do our work knowing that is our contribution to the world, based on our given talents and abilities and our inspiration from the universe. Then we can enjoy accolades as a bonus as we walk our path today. 

When we have been given the gift of respect and validation, it can make us remember to share our thoughts of esteem with others. There are days when we may struggle, questioning if we are following the right path. When others appear to validate our choices, we may feel like an angel has spoken to us. We can be that angel for someone else when we sincerely express praise for the work of others.  When we encourage others to walk their paths, we create an atmosphere of support for ourselves as well. When we are given the gifts of acknowledgement, we can choose to circulate the wealth of good feelings by sharing it with others.

Persuasive Confidence (edited down for relevance)

Though you may not intend to be, you may find that others consider you compelling. Confidence can be so elusive in a world of competition and comparison. But we can look beyond all of that when our confidence is based on our connection to self. When we are anchored in the truth of our being, there is little that can sway us. Today we choose to observe the affect we have on others, and give the credit to our inner source.

Comparison will only cause us false confidence which will eventually falter. Our most constant source of confidence is our connection to the universe. When we come from that unchanging center within, we know that we have unique gifts to bring the world in our own unique way. Then our journey becomes finding our best opportunities to let our light shine, and that is when we are the most persuasive. When we come from our highest selves, we are compelling for all the right reasons, and we show others the truth. When we let our confidence shine today, we show others that being ourselves fully and freely is the way to lasting self-esteem.

Worthy And Valuable (edited down for relevance)

Confidence comes from believing that you are valuable and worthy of achieving what you desire. That same belief attracts good to you, helping you to reach the heights you seek. It all begins with the belief in yourself, your abilities and your uniqueness. As you find that this is reflected and confirmed by the world around you, it feeds your confidence, making it easier and easier for you to reach your goals. We all create our experience from our beliefs, so when you believe the best about yourself today, you create your best life.

This is the law of attraction at work. We create what we believe and draw it to us at the same time. Whether we believe positive or negative things about ourselves, we will attract the situations that prove that we are right. We don’t do this by comparing ourselves with others, but by appreciating ourselves for all that we are, and by becoming all that we can be. Our goal is to be our best self and to share the gifts that are uniquely ours with the world. By taking the time to go within and listen to our inner guidance, we get to know our heart’s desires and know what direction is ours to take. When we know the power of our thoughts and beliefs, we can begin to make sure we use them carefully, wisely, and positively. Today you know you are worthy and walk confidently in the direction of your dreams.

Let me know if you found these helpful, and if you’d like to read more on another topic!

[Originally published by The Daily Om as horoscopes. Experience more OM at ]

Advice Columnist for Practical Spirituality?

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Here’s a new idea I had: I’ve got hundreds of articles that I’ve written and published that might be useful to people, but I can’t figure out the logistics of organizing them to make them available. 

As I was updating my page at it came to me. So I posted the following there:

If you need a little inspiration or some new ideas about how to interpret and experience life, you can choose from the variety of articles I’ve posted here at and at my website, 

If you find you still need a little something extra, feel free to e-mail me! Describe your challenge and I’ll search through my articles for different ways that you can entertain the possibilities!

I’ve got hundreds of already published spiritual advice articles that combine the messages and metaphors of the world we live in with widsom of spiritual laws that I’d be happy to share with you.

I will post the aticles that apply to my blog and perhaps help others at the same time who are going through the same thing. Life’s lessons tend to happen in phases along certain themes that resonate with those on the same wavelength, so you can be sure that you are never alone.

I’m thrilled to be able to share the spiritual adventure of life with you!

What I like about this is that I’m not actually giving personal advice. That seems way too know-it-all to me, and it turns out that I don’t actually know it all. Instead, I’m offering information that I’ve already written about whatever the subject may be, and I’m just sharing it in the hopes of being helpful.

So if you’d like to help me take this idea for a spin, please e-mail me at and I’ll post the articles that apply here.

I look forward to hearing from you!

My first OM story!

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My very first story for DailyOM, written on Oct 18, 2005, now graces page 161 of the DailyOM book!


Being Aware November 14, 2005
Stepping Into Consciousness

Life is a journey comprised of many steps on our personal path that takes us down a winding road of constant evolution. And each day, we are provided with a myriad of opportunities that can allow us to transform into our next best selves. One moment we are presented with an opportunity to react differently when yet another someone in our life rubs us the wrong way; on another day we may find ourselves wanting to walk away from a particular circumstance but are not sure if we can. Eventually, we may find ourselves stuck in a rut that we can never seem to get out of. We may even make the same choices over and over again because we don't know how to choose otherwise. Rather than moving us forward, our personal paths may take us in a seemingly never-ending circle where our actions and choices lead us nowhere but to where we've already been. It is during these moments that awareness can be the first step to change.

Awareness is when we are able to realize what we are doing. We observe ourselves, noticing our reactions, actions, and choices as if we were a detached viewer. Awareness is the first step to change because we can't make a change unless we are aware that one needs to be made in the first place. We can then begin understanding why we are doing what we are doing. Afterward, it becomes difficult not to change because we are no longer asleep to the truth behind our behaviors. We also begin to realize that, just as much as we are the root source behind the causes for our behaviors, we are also the originator for any changes that we want to happen.

There is a freedom that comes with awareness. Rather than thinking that we are stuck in a repetitive cycle where there is no escape, we begin to see that we very much play a hand in creating our lives. Whether we are aware of them or not, our behaviors and choices are always ours to make. Our past and our present no longer have to dictate our future when we choose to be aware. We are then free to move beyond our old limits, make new choices, and take new actions. With awareness, our paths can't help but wind us forward in our lives while paving the way for new experiences and new ways of being. It is through awareness that we can continue to consciously evolve.

written by Malayna Dawn for – see it at

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