We make it feel good or bad with our choices, but we can always make new choices that feel better.
It's like our thoughts, or our prayers. If we focus our energy and attention on what we don't like or want instead of what we do like and want in our lives, we are giving those things our energy.
We are the socket and we give our energy to whatever we allow to be plugged in to us. Does that make sense?
Even if we pray for something bad NOT to happen, we are investing more thought into the negative than the positive. Keep your energy and attention focused on the positive!